Limbo...I feel like my little family is in a constant state of limbo. We continuously dip our toes into our future life in Minnesota with a trip here, and a job posting there, but are then pulled back to Iowa with these job responsibilities and that house project. Vinnie has happy adventures during daddy's visits and quiet "survival" weekends when its mom alone. Its hard to live in the now, when you are constantly looking forward to the next weekend visit, hoping for a new posting, and wondering where you will be living 6 months from now.
One thing I am always striving for, in addition to just getting through most days, is that Vinnie gets to do the things he would be doing if Jon were here...this is often easier said than done, but I don't want to look back at this year and feel like there was some big toddler right of passage that he missed out on. While most weekends are spent trying to contain these activities within the confines of our own house (its just easier this way), sometimes I force myself outside of my comfort zone, for Vinnie's sake and we venture out. This weekend we did have one pretty successful adventure. Yesterday, Vinnie and I saw "Walking with Dinosaurs" at our budget theater in town. $8 in movie tickets and $4 in popcorn, and it was a perfect evening activity that bought mom a little change of pace and a break from entertaining Vinnie, and bough Vinnie some pretty fabulous dinosaur entertainment. I'm not sure what he loved more, the movie or the popcorn, but it was a very successful trip!
Every day closer to summer, I am reminded that what ties us to Iowa will soon be gone, and I must focus some of my energy on finding my next step professionally in Minnesota. So, during nap time, while Vinnie watches Elmo, or after he has gone to bed, my job search continues. Each day I visit "edpost" which is an online bank of teaching positions in the midwest. It focuses primarily around Minnesota, as it is put out by St. Cloud State University. While it is nice to have this as a resource, it isn't really a one-stop shop. Many postings exsist that are not on this page. So...I have bookmarked my 15-20 school districts in the metro that would be ideal locations for jobs and each day I navigate through postings on their individual sites as well. So far, I have applied for ONE job, a High School special education position in St. Louis Park. There weren't too many details about the job, so I don't know if it is focused in an area that I have experience, or if it even a position available for next year. Other than that...there have been a few middle school positions, which I'm not ready to apply for, as it is not an area I have much experience. What has me in a bit of a freak out mode is that inteviews for my current position in Iowa will be taking place this week. As my current job, which I have poured my heart and soul into, slips away, I was hoping I'd have the hopes of a new position to keep me positive and focus my attention. Everyone tells me it is early, that come March, the jobs will start opening up. Lets hope!
Our "home" in Iowa is in Limbo too! As I begin to pack away and de-clutter to put the house on the market, the comforts of our home are slipping away. Now it is a space that we are trying to sell. I know that there are many happy memories to be made in future homes up north, but my heart hurts as I pack away memories of many new beginnings and special times we have shared here. This is where we first brought Vinnie home, and where we had so much space we could open it up to friends and family for long weekends together. But, north there is no more limbo, and only countless opportunities with family and friends, making new special memories! Jon will come down next weekend, and we will focus all our energy on getting the house ready to show. He will pull a trailor of boxes and even some furniture back to Minnesota, and on Monday 3/3, our house in Cedar Rapids will go on the market.
While we continue through these months of limbo, each member of our little family is taking steps toward making our new life together. Jon has taken the biggest step of all, but we hope very soon we will be able to catch up to him!